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{{ links }} ";s:4:"text";s:6305:"After crawling my way through dark times, the people tell me to forget the past and forgive. This is deep work, stick with it. Forgive, and you will be forgiven. We can only choose whether to focus on it, repress it, express it, or to use it, constructively or destructively.I prefer the word 'reconciliation'. Great injuries, great traumas, must be considered in the topic of forgiveness.
Centuries ago, this pecking order was referred to as The Great Chain of Being.Dear Oblique: good thing you used the word 'snarky'. June 2020. Some people have been abused and betrayed BY their clergy or church.The forgiving CAN be left up to God, if the victim doesn't feel they can do this.This post is a prime example of the cruelty, insensitivity, ignorance and stupidity of clergy and congregations that punishes victims and contributes to a lot of suicides by hurting people who can't escape the guilting and shaming that churches lay on them after they've had the misfortune to be harmed by others. 16 When you fast, do not be somber like the hypocrites, for they disfigure their faces to show men they are fasting. I finally said, 'Screw it.' Participants in his study were newlyweds, who’d been married an average of 3.2 months; that’s important to keep in mind since, in theory at least, these “honeymooners” should have very low levels of interpersonal Using various measures to establish the quality of the relationship—including a questionnaire and 10-minute videotaped discussions between spouses about sources of tension in the McNulty found that with partners who demonstrated negative behavior infrequently, forgiveness was beneficial, but for those for whom negative behavior was frequent, countering with forgiveness was downright harmful. Be careful who you forgive.You cannot forgive someone that feels no remorse and does nothing to apologize. So many injustices happen because no one says anything about them.”Here’s a no-brainer: An abuser who tells a victim to forgive and let go may not have the victim's best interest at heart. The reality is that there is no such thing as a God or gods, it's a figment of the human imagination and a mental crutch to lean on during difficult times. I hope that you will forgive me for not being [...] able to stay.